I’ve been at the condo I’m renting now for six days, wintering in a small coastal town by the bay, and this first stretch has been less about doing and more about arriving.

When I first got here, there were a couple of things that made it hard to settle in right away. The kitchen wasn’t as clean as I needed it to be, so I rewashed all the dishes, cleaned out the cabinets and pantry, and reorganized everything. I realized quickly that I couldn’t fully relax in the space without doing this first. Even though the kitchen is small, I worked through it slowly over a few days, running the dishwasher, handwashing certain items, and putting everything back in a way that felt right.
Once I knew the kitchen hadn’t met my standards, it also felt necessary to clean the rest of the condo. Not in a rushed or anxious way—just methodically, until the space felt calm and breathable again. Only then did it feel like a place I could actually land.
I made a grocery run for basic supplies and picked up takeout a few times. I gave myself permission to be a little indulgent before beginning the more intentional work of healing and change. There was no urgency, no sense that I needed to get everything “right” immediately.

What feels different this time is how open my days are. I don’t know anyone in this town. I don’t have work shaping my schedule or responsibilities quietly dictating my time. There’s no familiar structure to lean on—just me, a quiet condo, and the freedom to decide how each day unfolds. And instead of feeling unsettling, that openness feels incredibly good.
Mostly, I’ve been still.
I’ve watched the sunrise and sunset from my balcony overlooking the bay. Some mornings begin with a quiet walk along the beach, the air cool and the shoreline nearly empty. I’ve stretched gently, letting my body wake up slowly. I’ve lingered with my tea, watched kayakers drift by, and smiled as pelicans—one of my favorite water birds—dive awkwardly into the water for their meals. One evening, I poured a glass of wine and sat quietly as the sun slipped below the horizon, doing nothing more than noticing the light as it faded.

I’ve walked the beach without an agenda. I haven’t found any shells yet, but I waded into the cold water and felt the sand shift beneath my feet. I discovered a walking trail nearby and have a feeling I’ll spend more time there in the days ahead.

Beyond those small moments, I haven’t done much—and that feels exactly right.
This first week has been about giving myself room to arrive fully. To breathe. To let my body settle before asking it to change. To enjoy the luxury of unstructured time before layering in routines, projects, or plans.
There will be art classes and exploring. There will be longer walks, a fitness rhythm, better eating habits, and early mornings searching for whooping cranes wintering nearby. I want to find shells. I want to learn this place. All of that will come.
For now, this part matters too. The part that doesn’t look especially productive on the surface, but feels deeply restorative underneath.
This isn’t transformation yet—it’s preparation. A gentle clearing. A true settling in.
– Kari



Your posts soothe me! I thrive on visiting new places where, as you said,
“What feels different this time is how open my days are. I don’t know anyone in this town. I don’t have work shaping my schedule or responsibilities quietly dictating my time. There’s no familiar structure to lean on—just me, a quiet condo, and the freedom to decide how each day unfolds. And instead of feeling unsettling, that openness feels incredibly good.”
I hope you continue to enjoy your new place. Looking forward to hearing more!
Hi Mary Ann,
Thank you so much for this. I love hearing that the post resonated with you. I’m really enjoying this season of openness and just letting the days unfold as they will. It feels good to be here, and I’m glad to share a bit of it along the way. 🤍
Kari
Kari!
Whatever it is that you’re doing, I love it. I feel much the same at times in this chapter of my life.The evolution of days, realizing I’ve not gotten in my car for 3 or 4 days, trying to drink that glass of water before that cup of coffee. Being full of gratitude and attempting to dissuade regrets from creeping into my thoughts. Giving myself grace instead of negative self talk. Eating healthier and telling myself that today I will go for a walk!
Where is this delightful winter respite? What bay brings you sunrise AND sunset? I’d love to catch up and hear about your journey. You’ve always been such a forward thinking woman of substance.
Mira
Hi Mira,
Thank you for this—it really made me smile. I love how you described the small noticing of days and the practice of giving yourself grace. That feels so familiar to me right now too.
This winter has been so much about slowing down, listening more, and letting the light and water do their thing. Being near the bay has been such a gift. I’d love to catch up and I’ve meant to call. Your words mean a lot—thank you.
Kari